10/31, night || un: n.sakasaki

[crystallomancy]

Help! A Friend Of Mine Recently Got Into Their Very First Relationship And They're Too Scared To Ask The Forums For Advice Themselves, So They're Making Me Do It! (´・ω・｀)

So, The Story Is... They Fell In Love At First Sight With Their Current Boo And Rushed Right Into A Relationship! Σ(´・ω・｀) Now They're At A Loss About What To Do With Them!

If Anyone Can Give Them Some Relationship And Love Advice... Don't Hesitate! They'll Appreciate All Kinds Of Answers!

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[crystallomancy]

( ...okay he's posted it, he's looking at helena and subaru in particular with exhaustion. )

I hope neither of you regret THIS.

[starrypoint]

[!!!!!!!!!!! he's gonna hug natsume... his very best friend... one of his most favorite people ever...]

We probably won't!

[crystallomancy]

( UGGGHHH please. )

Are you SURE? With the type of people we have HERE?

c.kudo

[adsum]

dump them

[crystallomancy]

Who Hurt You, Miss Anglerfish? My Friend Wants To Know.

( subaru didnt ask for shit and yet )

[adsum]

"at a loss for what to do"
there's no commitment here
if it's not going to work out anyways just save yourself the grief

un: n.komaeda

[commences]

...

there's only so many people you care enough about to do this, and there's a few amount of people obvious about their affections...

...

i think person a should die... to show their feelings, this is the best advice i can give!

[crystallomancy]

Then Jump.

[commences]

jumping on over, thanks for the advice!

s.meanswell

[closewithnewintown]

did he ask you about glamours yet

[why is she even awake right now]

[crystallomancy]

( its ok trek i drafted this post twice while working like a nerd we're both hustling )

He Just Did. Not That It Matters, Since Telling Him Not To Do Something Just Makes Him Want To Do It More. Just Like You.

[closewithnewintown]

true

just tell him to not be dumb about it, okay? [she says, in the literal last post she makes before she just ollies into oblivion.]

un: w.ajax

[devouringdeep]

Well... To start with, your friend should step back and re-evaluate just what the attraction was built off of. The implication here being that if they're unsure how to proceed with contact, the relationship was not built on a proper foundation of mutual understanding.

Jumping straight into a serious commitment based off of a single sighting of one another means the relationship was based off of aesthetics only. Which... While not heinous, is usually not the best route to take. This means they haven't gotten to know each other, and are relative strangers that are simply intertwined in companionship due to a shared attraction. Attraction itself being the weakest possible building block to creating a stable relationship.

I would suggest taking time to sort out whether you actually enjoy time spent in their company, or if you simply enjoy looking at them. Love is weak and frail, fleeting and finite. You cannot stake everything just on the perceived notion of love alone. Love does not stitch your wounds, or fill your belly. Love does not end suffering, nor will it predate happiness. Love is also not necessary to live one's life to the fullest, as you can easily find fulfillment in many other ways.

If you're still set on trying to make it work out between the two of you, I would suggest an outing somewhere most would not go. Somewhere frightful - dangerous, even. You can learn a lot about a person based off of how they react when confronted by their own mortality.

[crystallomancy]

( the forums really are like 2ch... most of the time you don't get anything helpful but sometimes there are gems. or most of this is a gem, anyway. )

I May Have Been A Little Harsh In My Wording, To Be Fair, As They Do Seem Rather Earnest About This Relationship... And I Know They're A Good Person, Even If I'm At Odds With Their Choices At Times.

( ...he just gets worried, a little, but he's technically throwing stones in glass houses constantly. )

Do You Have A Lot Of Experience When It Comes To Affairs Of The Heart?

un: n.yashiro

[mermaidcursed]

no, it doesn't do that sort of thing. but it provides comfort when you're hurt, and good company while you eat. it gives reason to keep going, a mutual support you can't find in just yourself, and good times are better with people you care about.

maybe it's not necessary
but it can accentuate a lot of the good in life, and help ease the bad.

( DO YOU FEEL THE NENE BEAMS, CHILDE )

n.ebalon

[silentabyss]

kiss them idiot

[Noah should probably take his own advice.]

[crystallomancy]

Oh, I'm Sure They Do That Plenty Already. Anything Else?

un: y.kiryu

[comprises]

young love has a way of being reckless...

isnt that why most burn out so quickly?

[he's not helpful at all]

[commences]

i couldn't agree more.

un: n.yashiro

[mermaidcursed]

( just... sighs but smiles, she's preeetty sure she knows who this is. and she's given a bit of her piece already, buuut... )

it's important to know what you both want out of a relationship, and what you don't want! if you need to slow down or step back to do this thats okay, it's important to go at a pace that makes you both happy but that requires a lot of talking and listening!

[crystallomancy]

What A Knowledge Answer, Little Lamb. You're Quite The Romance Aficionado, Aren't You?

un: h.inaba

[dereban]

Why does this sound like the title of a very bad light novel?

Anyway, isn't it just fine to continue acting the way they have been? Just because you're dating doesn't mean you have to also rush into changing what you've been doing or anything.

But what is important, however - and this is from personal experience, is to be able to compromise with one another in the relationship and be able to communicate things properly. Naturally, that's true in any relationship (romantic or otherwise) but it's especially true in a romantic one.

[crystallomancy]

If You've Ever Been To 2Ch, I Formatted It After One Of My Favorite Thread Starters.

Thank You For The Advice; It's Always Nice To Hear From Those With Some Life Experience. I Agree With You Too, That There Needn't Necessarily Be Any Major Changes If Things Are Working As They Are.
But My Friend Chooses To Use Their Braincells At The Most Ridiculous Of Times--
Well. At Least It's Always In Consideration Of Another Person. I'll Give Them That.

un: r.okumura

[cyancinders]

well uh

maybe u should try cooking something nice for them? and have like a little... date night thingie. clear out a room and put up candles and stuff. ive never been on a date but i think ur just supposed to like do nice things for each other and kiss and hold hands and stuff. shouldnt be that hard right?

[crystallomancy]

I Wonder If They Actually Know How To Cook Anything Other Than Eggs And Toast.
Sound Ideas, At Any Rate. Perhaps There Was Some Merit To Asking The Forums, Though I Usually Regret Ever Posing Questions To The Peanut Gallery Here.